Are you the husband she needs — or just the one who showed up?
A 7-point marriage self-evaluation. Two H's, two A's, two P's, one Y. Each letter is a mirror — honest enough to show you where you stand, biblical enough to show you where to go.
Are you honest with yourself about where you actually are as a husband — not where you think you are? Search me, O God, and know my heart; try me, and know my thoughts (Psalm 139:23-24). Self-deception is the enemy of growth.
Psalm 139:23-24Does your wife feel publicly honored by you — in front of your kids, your friends, and strangers? Honor is not a private sentiment. It is a public declaration. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church (Ephesians 5:25).
Ephesians 5:25Is your personal walk with Christ the source of your marriage, or is your marriage running on fumes while you coast spiritually? Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, except it abide in the vine (John 15:4).
John 15:4Does your wife feel adored — not just loved in theory, but pursued, cherished, and delighted in? When was the last time you looked at her the way you did when you were dating? Thou hast ravished my heart (Song of Solomon 4:9).
Song of Solomon 4:9What are you actively protecting your wife from — emotionally, spiritually, physically? Protection is not passive. It requires vigilance, discernment, and the willingness to stand between her and anything that threatens her peace. Dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife (1 Peter 3:7).
1 Peter 3:7Does she feel secure? Not just financially — does she feel covered? Provision is emotional, spiritual, and directional. A man who does not provide for his own household has denied the faith and is worse than an infidel (1 Timothy 5:8).
1 Timothy 5:8When she speaks, do you actually change? Or do you hear her and then do what you already planned? Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves (Philippians 2:3-4).
Philippians 2:3-4"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it."Ephesians 5:25 (KJV)
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