The week’s task — three SACAs.
A SACA is a Self-Assigned Captain’s Action — you pick it, you own it, you ship it. Each takes 20–30 minutes, and any one completes the week — do all three if you want to go deeper. Open the PDF for the print version; the full text lives here too.
🖨️ Print this week — the one-page Week Runner (PDF)
WEEK 4 · SACA 1
The 5-Minute Wife Audit
A clean look at how you've actually been showing up.
Most captains believe their own PR. Today: ask AI to play the role of your wife describing this month from her chair. Then sit with what you read.
Action checklist
- Open Claude. Give it a brief: your marriage stage, this month's stressors, no specific names.
- Ask: "If my wife described how I'm showing up this month — words, presence, follow-through — what would she say?"
- Read the answer. Notice what stings. That's the signal.
- Pick ONE thing to fix this week. Tell no one but Claude (and her, when it changes).
DON'T SHOW HER THE AI'S ANSWER
This is a mirror for you, not a script for her. If you want her opinion, ask her directly.
SCRIPTURE SIT
Ephesians 5:25 — "Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church." Christ knew the bride. AI is a tool to help you know yours better.
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WEEK 4 · SACA 2
Prep One Hard Conversation
AI prepares the captain. The captain shows up.
There's a conversation you've been avoiding with your wife. This is the rep. AI is the prep room, not the pulpit.
Action checklist
- Use Claude to prepare: clarify what you want to say, anticipate her response, find the kindest true words.
- Then have the conversation. Without AI in the room.
- AI prepares the captain. The captain shows up.
- If you find yourself reading off your phone, you've missed the point.
- Afterward, log 2 sentences: what landed, what you'd do differently.
BE GENTLE WITH HER
She doesn't need a polished speech. She needs you — sober, present, and not hiding behind a screen.
SCRIPTURE SIT
Ephesians 4:15 — "Speak the truth in love." AI helps you find words; the Spirit gives you courage.
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WEEK 4 · SACA 3
Stand Up the Weekly Family Meeting
A standing 20-minute huddle — agenda built before you sit down.
The home runs on rhythm, not crisis. Put a weekly family meeting on the calendar and let AI draft the agenda from the week, so you lead the table instead of improvising it.
Action checklist
- Create a recurring weekly Calendar event — 20 minutes, same time, whole crew.
- Save a Claude prompt that drafts the agenda: wins · what's ahead · one decision · one prayer.
- Run the first meeting this week. Keep it short. End on the prayer.
- Track 'Family Meeting held' as a weekly Habitify habit — the streak is the accountability.
LEAD THE TABLE
AI builds the agenda; you build the men and women at the table. The tool never sits at the head.
SCRIPTURE SIT
Joshua 24:15 — "As for me and my house, we will serve the LORD." A house with no meeting drifts.
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CAPTAIN'S NOTE
What I want you to know about this week.
This isn’t romance week — it’s leadership in the home the world never sees but the next generation feels for forty years. The tool can prepare you for the hard conversation; it can’t walk through the door for you. And don’t show her the AI’s answer about her — that’s a mirror for you, not a script for her. The hand-off is the point, not the polish. And lead her with all three legs under you — compassion first, responsibility always, authority gently.
More from Adam — a personal story and what trips most men up — drops here as the cohort runs.
