Each takes 20–30 minutes. Open the PDF for the print version; the full text lives here too.
WEEK 4 · TASK 1
The 5-Minute Wife Audit
A clean look at how you've actually been showing up.
Most captains believe their own PR. Today: ask AI to play the role of your wife describing this month from her chair. Then sit with what you read.
Action checklist
- Open Claude. Give it a brief: your marriage stage, this month's stressors, no specific names.
- Ask: "If my wife described how I'm showing up this month — words, presence, follow-through — what would she say?"
- Read the answer. Notice what stings. That's the signal.
- Pick ONE thing to fix this week. Tell no one but Claude (and her, when it changes).
DON'T SHOW HER THE AI'S ANSWER
This is a mirror for you, not a script for her. If you want her opinion, ask her directly.
SCRIPTURE SIT
Ephesians 5:25 — "Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church." Christ knew the bride. AI is a tool to help you know yours better.
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WEEK 4 · TASK 2
Prep One Hard Conversation
AI prepares the captain. The captain shows up.
There's a conversation you've been avoiding with your wife. This is the rep. AI is the prep room, not the pulpit.
Action checklist
- Use Claude to prepare: clarify what you want to say, anticipate her response, find the kindest true words.
- Then have the conversation. Without AI in the room.
- AI prepares the captain. The captain shows up.
- If you find yourself reading off your phone, you've missed the point.
- Afterward, log 2 sentences: what landed, what you'd do differently.
BE GENTLE WITH HER
She doesn't need a polished speech. She needs you — sober, present, and not hiding behind a screen.
SCRIPTURE SIT
Ephesians 4:15 — "Speak the truth in love." AI helps you find words; the Spirit gives you courage.
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WEEK 4 · TASK 3
Letter to Your Wife
One page. AI polishes grammar. You sign. You hand it over.
A handwritten or printed letter still does something a text doesn't. Today is the rep. Make it real.
Action checklist
- Open Claude. Tell it the season your marriage is in. Ask for a structured outline only — no draft text.
- Write the letter yourself, your voice, your specifics.
- Run it through Claude for grammar polish — keep your voice, fix only what's broken.
- Print it. Hand-sign it. Hand it to her. No explanation needed.
THE POINT
Not the polish. The hand-off. Cards in a drawer don't count.
SCRIPTURE SIT
Song of Solomon 4:1 — Words spoken in love are still the strongest thing a husband owns.
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